Grieving The Firsts
In this heartfelt episode of Grief Unfiltered, host Krystle Hall takes us into the world of “the firsts”. Those gut-wrenching moments that follow the loss of a loved one. From birthdays and holidays to the unexpected grief triggers (like a milk carton expiration date or a commercial on TV), Krystle opens up about how these milestones hit differently—and often harder—than we expect.
Through vulnerable storytelling and lived experience, she shares practical ways to navigate the firsts, shift your mindset, and honor your grief without judgment. Listener stories add humor, humanity, and warmth to the conversation, reminding us that we’re never alone in our pain—or our healing.
Whether you're facing a painful date on the calendar or supporting someone who is, this episode offers deep comfort and gentle guidance.
📌 Timestamps:
[00:00] Welcome & Episode Intro
[00:30] The dreaded firsts: birthdays, holidays, and more
[01:11] The emotional build-up vs. the actual day
[02:14] Grief triggers: milk cartons, calendars, commercials
[03:36] Birthday dinner breakdown (and surprise joy)
[05:04] No rules: Grief is unpredictable and personal
[06:35] Navigating big days: celebrate or skip?
[07:46] The unexpected pain of public holidays and ads
[08:44] Envy, mindset shifts, and honoring the living
[11:02] Survival tips: Make a plan, be flexible
[13:44] The weird relief that comes after the hard day
[15:00] Starting new traditions (or skipping them)
[16:16] Talk about them—don’t avoid their name
[17:04] Feel it all: the good, the bad, and the weird
[18:33] When distraction helps—but not forever
[19:38] Listener stories: burnt turkeys, spaghetti fails & Hallmark roasts
[20:45] Final thoughts: it doesn't get easier—you just get better at carrying it
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