Feeling Stuck in Grief: How to Move from Avoiding to Processing

Krystle and Danette of Grief Unfiltered discuss the common experience of feeling stuck in grief and how it can show up even years later. They distinguish between “being stuck” (not doing the work, avoiding feelings, staying in bed or staying overly busy to escape) and “feeling stuck” (having heavy days and recurring emotions as part of a lifelong process). They explain how avoidance, compartmentalizing, lack of tools, social pressure to move on, and trying to protect others can keep grief unresolved. Krystle shares an “aha” moment prompted by her husband that led her to therapy after three years, while Danette describes grief presenting as anxiety and fight-or-flight after their dad’s cancer and death, improved through therapy, journaling, mindfulness, and basic self-care. They encourage talking about the person who died, finding balance, seeking professional help, and offer their journal at growththroughyourgrief.net.

📌 Timestamps: 

00:00 Welcome to Grief Unfiltered

00:33 Why Grief Feels Stuck

02:47 Feeling Stuck vs Being Stuck

04:24 Avoidance and Family Patterns

05:47 Take Your Power Back

07:06 Busy or Bedridden Balance

10:35 Talk It Out and Journal

12:47 Why People Get Stuck

17:05 Krystle Therapy Turning Point

20:57 Danette Anxiety and Self Care

24:30 Fight or Flight After Illness

27:40 Final Takeaways and Resources

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